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North London Stress Management Centre.
Tel: 020 8444 4871
"It took me four years to paint like Raphael, but a lifetime to paint like a child" Pablo Picasso
We are all born confident, full of wonder, joy, creativity and happiness. But then, because of our upbringing, our experiences, our environment we proceed to learn to doubt ourselves as we steadily progress through life. The good news, however, is that we can just as easily un-learn these doubts, ridding ourselves of past negative programming, changing our reactions to any problems we currently face, taking strides to enhance our self-projection and accepting the absolute fact that positive change is a wonderful and exciting process.
We begin to change and grow in confidence by first believing that change can occur, trusting that no matter how hard or challenging it may seem, it is possible to change any aspect of our lives, regardless of what we perceive the obstacles to be. Next, we need to really make the decision to change for if we make a half-hearted attempt, we must expect (and ultimately accept) half-hearted results. So we ask ourselves, do we really want to change? If so, we can design a roadmap, charting how these changes will look.
There is no harm in undertaking some simple analysis in relation to our future plans. What are the strengths, weaknesses, opportunities and threats involved? How can we overcome them? We must then spend time and energy rehearsing new behaviours. All of this breeds new confidence, a new lease of life even.
It is nice to get encouragement and support whenever you decide to change your life for the better but ultimately, it does not make a difference. You can re-learn confidence without anybody’s approval or consent.
Which leads us to self-esteem. It's a fact that some people can be generally confident but suffer from low self-esteem and equally, there are those who seem to enjoy self-esteem, yet struggle with confidence. This is not quite as peculiar or abstract as it may first appear.
Raising your self-esteem involves a significant adjustment to how you are currently leading your life which, of course, is a lot easier said than done. Adopting a positive attitude (despite your current circumstances) getting enough sleep, being in a healthy relationship, exercising on a fairly regular basis, managing your finances, enjoying the work you do, having a worthwhile career etc.
Which is all well and good but it does beg the question - how can all this be achieved, particularly now this miserable virus has descended on us? If you are stuck in a dead-end job with no prospects, if you tend to catch any kind of illness that goes round, if you’re never satisfied with your appearance, if you are constantly broke and permanently peed-off then no amount of self- help preaching or Deepak books are going to help you, regardless of how much you really want to change. This is where we at NLSMC come in.
Using proven techniques drawn from psycho-cybernetics, neuro-linguistic programming, gestalt psychology, cognitive-behavioural therapy (CBT) emotional freedom techniques, mindfulness and (where appropriate) hypnotherapy, we work with you to embrace harmony, control, self-protection and well-being, in the process creating the self-image you deserve, the sense of identity and purpose you know you are entitled to.
Is it possible to see into the future, where confidence and self-esteem is our natural, de-fault condition? Well actually, it is. But only when we start creating it for ourselves.